Let’s play!! 4 easy experiments to try…

Personal development is a journey, not a destination. None of us will ever wholly override the programs and strategies we learned as children, but we can develop a higher level of awareness around them. No matter how “evolved” we become, we will continue to …

2 more ways we hide the truth from ourselves…

  In last week’s Scoop, we discussed 2 common strategies that we often learn from a young age to “survive”: controlling and people-pleasing. Today, I’m going to dive into the other two: isolating and distracting.*  Isolating: this strategy can look like emotional …

What unconscious programs are you running?

When we’re young, we develop certain unconscious “programs” to help us survive. Continuing the example from last week’s email, perfectionism is one example of such a strategy. “If I’m perfect, THEN I’ll belong and be loved” (AKA: survive). Other unconscious programs including …

The perfection trap

Did you know that your mind is a machine and that it runs on programs that you learned at a very young age? When we’re little, we lack the logic skills to understand why mommy is sad, or daddy is …

Oops, your blind spots are showing….

“You can’t see the label of the jar you’re in.” The first time I deeply understood this was during a retreat when one of my mentors introduced the concept of “Johari’s Window.” Johari’s window is a graphic representation of how we operate in …

What happened when I quit drinking…

There’s just no way around the fact that real, lasting transformation comes with an identity shift. Radically changing who you are and how you move through the world can be a challenge – not just for you, but for the people …